Try not to explode, to control yourself to unsuspected levels, especially in certain contexts (family, children, work...).
A few weeks ago, a patient asked me how psychologists and psychiatrists were doing to cope with these pandemic times, linked, of course, to the maelstrom of everyday life.
My answer was blunt: "Neither psychologists nor psychiatrists come from Mars, we are people like you."
It's true, we have some tools that you probably don't have yet, that's why you're here, but despite the fact that we take care of ourselves, we also have difficulties.
I have to confess that when someone tells me: No, you can't have difficulties, you're a psychologist! I like it as much as when they tell me: Are you a psychologist? Are you reading my mind? I find it funny, but for now, and I hope I can never read minds, guess what, I'm not and I don't come from Mars either.
If you are reading me and you are a psychologist or psychiatrist, you will perfectly understand what I am talking about.
Sometimes, and you don't explode of your own free will, your body simply forces you to make that break, that break that your head just refuses to face.
Sometimes it's better to scream than keep quiet.
Silence, depending on how it is managed, can be a double-edged sword.
It's not bad not to be well, shutting it up is.
All people have bad moments, they are necessary, many times they help us grow, at the same time that we learn to value the good moments in life, which there are, and sometimes we are lucky that there are many.
This pandemic is already long for all of us, the good news is that it will not last forever.
It is inevitable that there are bad moments and it is difficult for you to pull the car, pulling is always exhausting. But if you dare to share them, the liberation you will feel, that relief and tranquility, even if they are not going to solve your problems, your mind and body will thank you.
One of the things that I think is important in life is that we should not confuse happiness with ease. Looking your demons in the face is the first step in reconciling with them.
As I said before, neither psychologists nor psychiatrists come from Mars, we also cry and when we do we also ask for help.
Humor is therapeutic, it helps me de-dramatize and change the focus and take distance, from a distance everything is clearer and we can adopt more effective solutions.
If you don't deal with your difficulties sooner or later they will come out somewhere.
Surround ourselves with people who bring us serenity, balance to our lives, fresh people, that is the key.
That saying about who flees from fear falls in the strip, I don't take away from it.
With this I simply want to remind you that we all have fears, stressful situations that can create insecurity for us but that we are all capable of overcoming them and if you don't feel strong right now, there is nothing more courageous than asking for help.
It does not always have to be a professional, it may be the most recommended, but your relative, your friend, that person you trust, don't shut up and ask for help.